Give someone a hand up instead of a hand out

Our ecomomy is still flat.  Income is flat or receding. Unemployment has climbed to 10.2%.  More and more people now need a hand up, not a hand out.  I know how tempting it is to look to the government for a handout.  It does appear that money grows on trees in Washington DC.

A hand up, to me, is assisting someone cope with a major change in their life.  It could be a death in the family, a divorce, the loss of a job, or even an injury that restricts their lifestyle.  Historically, we have been charitable people. We did this by taking food over to a neighbor that had lost a loved one,we  offered to help someone find a job through the connections that we had, and we offered to take care of the kids for the neighbor, while they dealt with a marital issue.  We need to continue to help our neighbors by giving them a hand up.  Forming a community network would be a great step toward retaining our individual independence with the assistance of the community only when necessary.  We give to non-profit organizations like the United Way, Red Cross, and the American Heart Association so they can give a hand up to those that need it.  I prefer to give my money to the charity of my choice.  When the government gives a hand out – it is from money that has been taken from people in the form of taxes or money that is borrowed from others.

I was homeless for a while in Nashville.  A friend told me about an organization called Matthew 25 Ministries. I went to them for assistence. They gave me a cot to sleep on at their ministry.  This was not a hand out though, I had to have a job and do chores to help maintain the facility.  I was asked to give them half of my income – they held on to it as a down payment for a place of my own.  I was instructed that I would be kicked out if I was blowing my money on drugs or alcohol.  They did random testing.  The whole experience taught me the difference between a hand up and a hand out.  Matthew 25 is definitely about giving people a hand up. They helped me with the motivation and accountability to seek the bountiful results of getting back into a place of my own. I was given an opportunity to save money and to change my outcome through my efforts, not through someone else losing their money in order for me to gain some.

I came up with an acronym for a HAND UP:

Hold out your hand
Ask them about their needs
Negotiate your role
Develop a plan

Urge them on
Praise their efforts

If we incorporate these 6 steps into our efforts, the positive results have a greater chance of being lasting results.

Gone Fishing?

“Give a man a fish; you have fed him for today. Teach a man to fish; and you have fed him for a lifetime”—Author unknown

This is one of my favorite quotes.  When I have an opportunity to teach something, I feel that it is a gift that will continue to give.  When we learn to “fish” we take a step closer to being more self reliant.  I do not know of anyone that has a greater stake in me being successful than myself.  I want to create every opportunity and open every door that I can.

There are many teachers out there in a wide range of topics.

Are you ready to go fishing?  Are you waiting for someone to bring you your next fish? The first part of getting bountiful results is having a need.  The next part is creating a plan.  Create a plan to fish for many years to come.

Another interesting tidbit about teaching that I enjoy is that when I am preparing the lesson or presentation,  I often learn even more.

All this talk about food is making me hungry.  I’m Goin Fishing.